Excerpt From Chapter 11: Proactive Parenting and Being Engaged

   I want to talk about Engagement...

   And no, not the wedding kind or the kind that requires an RSVP...

   I want to talk about BEING ENGAGED...

   Let me back up a minute...

   A couple months ago I got hit with quite a few "projects"... This isn't too out of the ordinary for me, but I have to admit that my workload became greater than usual.

   So, I took some time to research and ponder the best way to execute these projects.

   Loosely translated this means that **time** has become a commodity for me!

   As a direct result I put into practice a thing I call “Chunking”...

   I got the term from Anthony Robbins and it really drives home this idea!

By "Chunking" I am referring to sitting down and taking care of business in one sitting.

   Instead of being distracted by several things going on at once, sit down and get a task done in one sitting...

   And if the task at hand is eating dinner, it’s probably best to NOT stand up.

   Of course, this can't apply to ALL projects, but for the day-to-day stuff it applies pretty well.

   The point is that by becoming more “engaged” in an activity, you are going to be more productive and ultimately be able to shift ‘time’ to work in your favor.

   So, what the heck does this have to do with YOUR CHILD... Is this in the wrong section??

   We already talked about time management, so you’ve got some good “seeds” to think about when it comes to how to deal with your time.

   So, yes, this does have very much to do with your child but let me drive it home with a personal story...

   The main area of my life where this fits perfect is with my daughter.

   When she wants to play a game or go to the park I've found that ENGAGEMENT is the key.

   And since she's young, she's got a relatively short attention span. The reason I mention this is because the seven to ten minutes that I become fully engaged in her activity is precious...

   I don't answer the phone, don't look at email and don't work...

   I simply sit with her and build a spaceship out of Legos or assemble some Cooties...

   The bottom line is that engaged interaction with your child is a strong bonding tool...

   And it allows you to be Proactive as a parent.

   You’ve probably heard the term “proactive” to counteract the term “reactive”... and yes, they are polar opposites.

   When you are being Proactive, you are taking measures to prevent something from happening... by contrast, when you are Reactive, you are reacting to a situation or an idea.

   The reason it’s important to mention this is so that you can contextual grab where I am coming from.

   The idea is that by using the technique of Chunking your tasks together you can make an effort to spend more quality time with your child... and spending more quality time with your child is a very proactive thing to do.

   First and foremost, you’ll have more time. When followed correctly, you’ll be able to have more free time with your child for you to choose what activities you do.

   But more importantly, your child won't associate you being "busy" with their play time and you'll have a chance to enjoy the present moment with them.

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